I want to blame Isagani Cruz’s (URL) article for this but I wouldn’t. I believe that some ideas and beliefs, no matter how vile or sick they are, will just live as long as their believers liveth. After that, the current ideas – which cannot be said to be better, either - simply take over. This is hardly a case of not being able to teach old dogs new tricks, mind you. It’s his belief, for chrissakes. Why should we hate the man for his beliefs? And what does the broadsheet which published it have anything to do with the whole thing? Newspapers are simply venues for exchange of ideas (don’t shoot the messenger, ‘ika nga).
Let it be told, however, that despite what Justice Cruz’s beliefs are, his article has taught us lessons. That is, to look at issues in the proper perspective which is to discuss these, not on a personal level, but on a level that allows everyone to have a say on things and NOT feel rejected or hated.
While it is virtually impossible to detach oneself from the issue especially if you are concerned, must there be a need to lambast each other over each other’s beliefs? If Cruz believed that the pink community has its faults (after all, he said he doesn’t frown on all its members), so does the “straight” community.
The “straight” community has, many times over, made a linchpin of the pinks. This is pretty obvious in the way they have been portrayed on television (Diego of Bubble Gang is currently the best example), in the movies, and on advertisements. But the straights cannot be completely faulted for this either because the pinks –until now – are almost always never united on anything in the first place. Every year, the rainbow parades are held several times in several locations instead of just one grand Mardi Gras like those in Sydney or LA. This is because the local LGBT organizations do not agree on logistics and funding. While the rest of the world celebrates Pride Month in June, we find other local organizations celebrating it in August. And hear me out here (and don’t heckle me, please), if it REALLY is important to have these so-called gay rights recognized, why isn’t there a concerted effort, from the parlorista up to those who are on the level of privilege, to bring these issues to the right venues to be heard and discussed?
On a personal note, I must admit I find myself at always at odds with a very active member whenever we discuss the gay movement in the Philippines. Our constant misunderstandings have strained our friendship many times. I would like to see this now as a reflection of what is currently happening in the blogsphere. Because no side would want to budge, a major clash is inevitable. My friend has branded my ideas as being “high hat…which won’t contribute to the movement”, while I have accused him of being “insistent that the rest of society see things his way”.
And who are the losers in this word war? The pink community itself.
It’s not anymore about what the pundits think and/or feel (you’ve all expressed yourselves well enough), but what the ENTIRE community – both gay and straight - feels about it. I wish I had the opportunity to ask every gay person I know if they have read the article(s) at all. It would be interesting to know what their answers would have been, if they really care at all. Life is hard enough to even bother, I suppose. Otherwise, I would have seen large groups stoning Justice Cruz’s house by now.
For once I thought, finally, a chance to publicly discuss the issues long raised by the community for public discourse! The opportunity could have been used to debate on issues such as “equal” rights, access to jobs, discrimination, access to healthcare (this one most especially) but what did we get?
Utterly useless mudslinging. Another opportunity wasted.
For as long as we insist on taking vital issues on a personal level, we can never advance into finding solutions to our problems because we are all too busy protecting ourselves, instead of advancing the interests of the aggrieved party.